Unconditional Love- exist ?

When you are in your growing age you love to believe in existence of unconditional love and to believe in rosy garden of pure love without any thorn of expectaion.You think that some relationships are there for you only and can't turn their back in any season.

Wait.......

As you move ahead in your life you are hit with some harsh but real situations which provide you chance to pause and ponder  over the "Unconditional love theory."Still you manage to believe in theory once again with no change ( might be half heartedly this time),but yes it is believed by you .Reason ? 

Reason might be your so called positive thoughts or hopes or your strong belief in your unique variety of luck.So you keep on searching and accumulating examples of your life to prove the theory right.

So what next?

Next the life decides to shower some more situations on you ,where you have to behave or work certain things in certain ways to assure, to  exhibit ,to showcase your love towards your loved ones.And any refusal or question mark raises many eyebrows and taken as non love gesture.

These repeated situations compel you to dethrone your unconditional love theory and then the real understanding of life bangs on you where you find yourself all alone amidst of loved ones.

And when you look back you find the story that most of the time you had to prove your love by accepting rules or choices of others without your own acceptance in order to validate your love towards them (conditions applied😘)

These bitter - sour bunches of experience happened to you to turn you into a mature clad with exact clarity of "Conditional love theory."

Though this new belief system is not so palatable,but if it is included judiousely in  life ,you learn to live the life with ease ,without any expectations from any of the surrounding thread.

तो मुस्कुराइए आपने ज़िंदगी का एक बेहतर सबक सीख लिया है,तो चलते रहिए जनाब

Some relevant Hindi songs if you remember other than below one.,can be shared with me..

Ekla chalo re ......

बोलने से सब हो जाता है!

गूगल ने अपना एक विज्ञापन बनाया है जिसमें कहा गया है कि,"बोलने से सब मिल जाता है"

मेरे ख्याल से ये विज्ञापन मशीनों पर बेहतर लागू पड़ता है। 

इंसानों के लिए उसे कुछ अलग तरीके से कहना होगा , जैसे, "बोलने से बहुत कुछ बिगड़ सकता है।"

अगर सामने वाला चाहे तो

बोलने से सामने वाले को पता चल सकता है, कि आपका कमजोर पहलू क्या है,सामने वाला उसका फायदा उठा कर आपकी ज़िंदगी की वाट लगा सकता है, अगर वो चाहे तो😍

इसलिए बाबू बोलने से पहले हजार बार सोचो 

बोलना आपकी हरीभरी जिंदगी को बेरंग कब्रिस्तान बनाने की श्क्यता रखता है।

Anxiety...

Anxiety, restlessness and hopelessness visit my place frequently:

When I overreach in thinking  

When I curse smone

When I condemn someone's act which I can't regulate

When I feel that I can't do anything

When I find my self helpless in some situations

When I socialize with a thought that everybody is observing me closely

When I meet someone with prejudiced mindset

When I judge someone 

When I  hate someone 

When I overthink 

When I ask help from an unknown person

When I spend time with a negative person

When I anticipate too much

And when I keep expectations from others.

Beware

I don't want you to read my mind,so I don't post quotes on my status.

I don't want to be predicatable,so I act without saying anything beforehand.

I don't want to be judged by my words, so I keep mum.

I don't want you to be at ease to finger at me on every changing state of your's mind.

So.....?

So I am quiet but beware I am observing you.

I am speaking but beware I am chewing my words.

I am oblivious of your actions but Beware I am Aware.

Know yourself?

Is it possible that someone else can understand your thoughts or feelings better than you?

I don't think so,because .....even you yourself never sit alone or have given yourself enough time to know yourself perfectly 🙂.

So what is the point to expect from others to understand you and respond to you accordingly.

You are expecting water from a dried up well😘

Limbo situation

Where the Indian youth is heading for?

They are in limbo,not sure where to move.

Parents want them to remain attached with their Indian roots but the very same time giving them freedom to accept western culture.These two opposite directional instructions confusing them and  to making them clumsy in social behaviour,appearance and in thinking pricess.

They are aquiring a brand new mannerism which does not belong to either side.

Its acceptable when we are only concerned about the appearance but seems viscious when it comes to inner values.

Immobility with mobile

Mobile means movement and cell phones are called mobile phones because they allow you to carry them everywhere with you.

Surprisingly I observed that the people with their mobile phones, " on" avoid movement.They love to sit in a corner undisturbed,far from the real world refraining themselves from living things who can't be muted with buttons.

So what should be mobiles called "Immobile phone?"

Let me know your opinion.....

Extra smart

Some people behave in extra smart way to befool others and think that others are not understanding their way,which is absolutely wrong.We do understand but choose to avoid upto an extent sothat we can measure their limits.

New new

Long years of togetherness create a type of overconfidence that the two know each other best and there is no need to pay heed further and this ......

This attitude  ruins the charm of a relationship.Both sides remain busy in boasting  their in depth knowledge of each other's behaviour, which ...infact is not a truth .

Every person pass through a series of changes in his/her lifetime and to be tagged for a similar behaviour for the whole life is not a good idea.These changes are evident enough ,still avoided inadvertently by the other side and in due course of the time this  attitude becomes the major cause of fall outs between the two.

Alas........... Is it called ignorance or anything else?

So,ask yourself a ❓_Are you aware of new new of your partner?

Have you ever tried to explore that new of each other ?

If not, then go ahead ,spend some time with each other ,keeping aside your work stations to explore the better version of your better half .

I promise you will not be disappointed ,instead will relish the company of your newer old Gold.

If not convinced ,please let me know your opinion...

Steering Power

While driving we use steering as per our wish and feel power that a vehicle can dance on our fingers.

In our life we seldom utilize," power of steering "on our emotions ,instead feel pity on ourselves for not able to handle the emotional turbulances.

Why opposite behaviour handling self versus Machine?

Try to achieve the art of mastering.

Think about it

Catharsis

Catharsis is best way to stop the hurricane of mind and to let the pressure release to clean up the space.

Caged Bird 🐦

The moment you give strings of your happiness in someone else hand,you become a caged Bird.

It is necessary to keep your strings in your hands no matter how bad the situation is.Don't fall trapped in world of nearests and dearests.

Everyone is an individual existence and they too are destined to be slave of  their mood and emotional  undulation,so sail your boat by your own and enjoy failure and success with equal responsibility.

To receive A gift is also an Art .I am the one who don't appreciate it in a way I should.Strange but true

Giving and receiving a gift is pleasure in our society,though some of us are not good at this art.I admit I can't appreciate a gift in a way I should do.Reason?

Perhaps I appreciate time ,company and loyalty of a relationship over the 🎁.

Nothing else can replace or add on above virtues.

I make myself strong everytime I think about him and melt everytime I confront him

To read and talk about mental health is altogether different from observing or noticing the same ,in day to day life. That's why mental disturbances experience maximum negligence in our society.

Virtual Villa

Mostly when we give too much attention,or thinking to some activity beforehand,we cordon off ourselves in a virtual villa where lots of fears, doubts,and insecurities keep on sprouting and hinder us to perform that activity.

So what should be the solution?                To give optimum, necessary and reasonable thought for that activity in a stipulated time frame.Once you are done with clarity ,stop thinking about the same and go ahead as per your conscious decision without looking back.

Do you really have someone to whom you can share your feelings,No I think it's a beautiful fallacy. Every listener has his or her limitations and thought process,which barricades the flow and you can't be relieved totally.

Mind plays with you,it can bounce your mood to sky or can shut off the mood in an eyewash , merely by clicking a file from your memory box. You really need a practice to close the clicked file of memory box within no time, when it is intended to ruin your mood.

When you are surrounded by imposters,you are likely to drown in depression,so much ado without nothing

working on your temper is like sliding on a steeper road without brake.Very hard to control.

People don't enjoy their strength,but they enjoy someone else's weakness.Strange but true

Practice

Practice to respond ,reaction is harmful for you most of the time.

An effort to make the Morning Good

I am trying to stick to my small goal.Everyday starts with efforts to achieve that and once you finish it you sigh with relief.Sympathetic followed by parasympathetic secretion in body

When you have too many goals,you fail to achieve all and end up being frustrated. Solution- to line them up as per priority and then achieve them one by one . Maintaining a Diary is not a bad idea.

Daily Life struggles sweeps away your creativity and one fine day you recall that you were pretty creative,l.How to get back that?Any Idea?